Manifesting Love: How do you know when you've met them?

by Helen
(New York)

Question: I've been trying to manifest love and a possible relationship: I wrote out what I was looking for, what kind of relationship, how I would feel, and have been using visualization. I've been feeling really confident within myself, happy with life and the people around me. I then saw this guy, and he was what I envisioned, but nothing happened. He didn't seem interested in me at all. I was disappointed but deep down, I knew he wasn't right for me, because I couldn't imagine us as a couple.

Then a couple months after, on a good day, after work I went to my local store and was served there by new staff member (a guy) and while serving me, I picked up a vibe from him. I didn't think anything of it until I saw him again, and we chatted. It's been like that for a couple weeks. I really started to like him, he seemed to match up to what I had written in my manifestation. But then he suddenly went cold like he wasn't interested. I didn't like how I was worrying about it so much so I stayed away.

I then found out he is a lot younger than I. Though he is an adult, but is 6 years younger then me. So after staying away for 2-3 weeks I went to the store and he was there. I was next in line at the checkout, a queue began to build up, and another till became free. As I went to try and go to the next till, he held my shopping so that he would be able to serve me and talk to me. Suddenly all the feelings about how much I liked him came back. Now I'm confused.

In my manifestation I put that the guy would be around the same age as me, not six years younger. Everything else matches this guy but that.

I just can't see myself being with someone six years younger than me, but when I think about me and him together it fits.


Real Life LoA Answer: I completely understand where you are coming from, I have been there so many times myself! I know how confusing it can be, and how frustrating it is to meet someone you really like, but to not have the feelings returned. It's hard. It sucks, actually.

And, when you factor in the Law of Attraction and how you will manifest and attract even more of what ever you are thinking about (regardless of whether or not he is "the one") it all becomes even more confusing as you bump into him and see him around!

Unfortunately there is kind of a disconnect between what you want the Law of Attraction to bring when it is very detailed. The Universe seems to bristle a bit under the weight of very specific requests, especially in the area of love -- a friend of mine explains it like this:

Think of the Universe/the Law of Attraction as the most highly trained, most talented, most exceptional 5-star chef that ever lived, and one who is psychic and knows EXACTLY what you most love to eat, and deeply want for every meal. But, just before this wonder chef is about to serve you your meal, you make a request for it to have more salt, a precise amount of cinnamon, and less of another couple of ingredients that you think you don't like. So, what was about to be the PERFECT meal for you, is now kind of a jumbled mess, because this Universal chef cannot override your explicit instructions.

That is how it is with the Universal Law of Attraction too -- it cannot override your free will as expressed in your explicit instructions. And, even if it does send you someone great, if he doesn't fit your specifications, you will not be able to see him. That's how it works; you see what you are looking for, and what you expect to see. Literally.

What I have found is that love, and the best relationships, are more about trust, faith, and willingness to be open to what comes, rather than wanting to know in advance what it will look like and trying to find it.

But, your perfect guy IS looking for YOU just as much as you are looking for him!
...your primary goal is to be receptive, make eye contact, and smile like there is no tomorrow.

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